Easing your Partners Pain with The Perfect Back Massage
Whether you work a hard physical job or use bad posture, our back goes through so much and takes a constant beating almost every day. The back is where our spinal cord is located and many of our bodies nerves are located here. Which is why often we can find ourselves in quite some pain.
A massage can be a great way to help your partner ease their pain from either bad posture, hard work or just a stressful busy day. Not only will it help their back feel better and relieve the pain but also help them feel better overall.
Many of the techniques we’ll be discussing are more beginner movements and you will be ok to perform, however some other may require you to use a professional masseur or masseuse.
We know not everyone has a massage table handy at home and we don’t expect you to either. So for the purpose of this post and your purse you’ll be using your bed for your partner’s perfect massage. Now make sure the bed is as comfortable as possible for your partner to relax on, otherwise it will only serve to create more tension in their back and this will result in a pointless massage and possibly further back pain.
Now you’ll want your partner to lie on the bed face down ideally with their arms beside them and a towel to help cover them up partially. Also place a rolled up towel under their forehead to raise their head and help them breathe easier.
If you want to create a more sensual mood to enjoy the experience more you could light some candles and dim the lights, but also consider playing some soothing music at a low level.
Using Massage Oils
If you decide to use massage oils, which is a good thing to sue as they help reduce the friction during the rubbing of the skin. Be sure to set out a couple of towels to catch any excess oil that may run off your partner’s body. We’d dread for you to ruin those lovely fresh white bed sheets!
And you are not just limited to just specially purchased massage oils. A great alternative for those performing a back massage on their partner can use a nice lotion or even some olive oil. Some people have even made their own massage oil using lavender oil which is known to help relaxation mixed with sunflower oils or olive oils. And can be an effective and cheaper alternative to purchasing massage oils.
Back Pain massage tips and techniques
Once your partner is laid on the bed be sure to take your position beside them and make sure your comfortable enough with being in that position for a while as you are massaging. Then begin by placing your hands either side of the bottom of their neck. Then slowly begin to run your hands down their back on both sides of their spine.
This will allow you to get a good feel of their back and help you find any areas that may be tense or feel knotted. Knots will usually feel like a lump on the muscle under the skin.
As you begin to run your hands up and down their back be sure to place your thumbs either side of their spine and fan your fingers out to cover more of the back. This will help you to sooth the skin and surrounding muscles.
Once you have spent some time massaging the back and found and dealt with any spots of tension it’s time to focus your attention on their shoulders. The shoulders are where most people who have a stressful job will have most of their tension stored. Start by placing your hands on either side of their neck and you will feel their muscle called the trapezium. Once there you can begin to massage the trapezium using slight pressure and moving in a circular motion.
Now moving your hands down between the shoulder blades and by making an L shape with your hands place it under the shoulder blade and rub the muscle. Repeat this motion on both shoulders and after a short while begin slowly moving your hands down toward the sides of the torso. Once there be sure to massage the sides and help release tension from under their arms and sides.
If at any point during the massage you feel any knots or concentrations of tension, take your thumb and be sure to apply mild pressure to the area. Press down and then release your thumb before rubbing the area in firm circles with your thumb until it is released.
The same principle applies to relieving knots however, if it is a large knot you will need to use your elbow to help release it rather than your thumb. Be sure to ask your partner that the pressure isn’t too uncomfortable as not to hurt them in the process. Once you feel the knot break up again rub the area with firm but gentle circular strokes to help push it out. This is one of the best ever feelings when having a massage and until you experience words can’t do it justice.
How Long should the Massage Last?
More often than not a massage generally lasts for between 30 to 60 minutes, however this can vary depending on the type of treatment required and how much tension your partner has built up. The more you perform this can of massage for your partner and loved one the better you will become at relieving their tension faster as you begin to learn their muscles and body better over time. It really is an art form in finding where the tension is and relieving it.
Overtime you will feel more confident in your ability and will be able to mix in your own movements and actions proving they don’t hurt your partner of course! The real benefit from a massage is the increase movement of blood flow around the body and muscles as a result of the massage, this increased flow actually helps combat pain in our bodies naturally.
When you are slowly coming to the end of the massage, a good way to finish is to slowly work your hands back up towards the neck area and massage the neck muscle some more before finishing.
Last but Not Least Massage Safety!
A massage carried out by your loving partner is a truly lovely experience however it should also be noted that they can be dangerous at the same time. And when carrying out a massage it is essential that you never apply pressure directly to their spinal cord as this can cause permanent damage to your partner. Also avoid too much pressure around the area of their kidneys too not only are they an important organ but do not have all that much muscle protecting them so slight pressure is more than enough.
As you can see there are many benefits to a massage, and receiving one from your partner after a hard day’s work is a great way to bond and create intimacy with each other. We hope that you find these tips really helpful in preparing and performing the perfect back massage for your partner, and that by following these tips you not only have a thrilling and enjoyable experience but also a safe one too.